Beauty isn't Always Skin Deep

There are so many different definitions of what beauty is. Beauty in a woman, to me, is kindness, grace, generosity, wisdom and also handsome looking in combination.:) #typicalthinking

 There is not a definition of beauty that everyone living on this earth can agree together. Some may think, beauty is what's on the surface and the others may feel that beauty is skin deep, the rest, like me , think it's the blend of these two but all in all, beauty depends on the eyes of the beholder. What may seems pretty to you probably looks the opposite to me.

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You see, people do crazy things in life to be beautiful. Plastic surgeries, tonnes of makeup, pretty clothing etc, you name it. At times, this pursuing beauty can be so addictive that people become obsessed by them. They feel high when they're praised. They feel good getting hundreds of likes on Facebook, Instagrams or getting favorites on their Twitter when they post selfies on their clothings and life styles. Personally, I do not see anything wrong with people getting plastic surgeries done on them. I guess maybe I see plastic surgery as permanent enhancements in comparison to wearing makeup which is more like temporary enhancement.  There's is nothing wrong with wearing makeup too. If you want it, go and get it. Just as long as you know that these are tools that are used to enhance your features but they are not what defines you. :)

Studies have shown that beautiful people do have certain advantages. They are happier, have high self-esteem, more desired, and considered as good. But nothing comes with just the pros without the cons. Female beauty may have problems in their jobs if the jobs they are having or planning to apply for have very strong gender masculinity. Other than that, they may attract attentions that are not intended. Some may face social rejections due to certain circumstances like others feeling jealous over their looks.
Note: nothing in life comes for free    

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Sometimes, you meet someone who looks gorgeous from the head to the toe and apparently, these people do not understand or even think that they're attractive. LOL. Can be cute and annoying depending on the situation. But you see, the one thing that we can learn from this is that your own thoughts do play a role. If you think yourself as strong and beautiful, you are or you're on the way to be that. But once you start thinking that you're not good enough, then you're right, you're not good enough.

I think everyone (including myself) wants to be beautiful simply because we want to feel loved. We want people to accept us for who we are and beauty is one of the keys for that. My mother once told me that the first thing people see isn't your personality but your image. So that is why grooming is important. But still, doesn't matter how gorgeous one looks, I still think of them as ugly if his or her personality is bad. LOL. :P

Anyway, the point of this post is to be a small nudge to remind myself (or maybe you) to not look at beauty or grooming in a bad lighting. As much as grooming one's image is important, to enhance one's skills, knowledge, talents and personality is equally important.

Note to self: do not be lazy to dress up, read more books, be kind always and see the goods in the bads :) #SelfLoveAlways 

True, beauty is not everything but it is something. It may not always be skin deep but beauty without kindness has little lasting effects. 

My friend's mother once said, a woman's biggest weapon is beauty. And guess what, she is absolutely right.

I hope you feel attractive and smoky hot most of the time if not all the time. :D

Till then, toodles.